Maurice Chevalier a French singer and entertainer also actor recorded a very popular song “Thank heaven for little girls” in 1958 which talks about (as the title suggest) little girls being a blessing from heaven. That is so true they’re cute and adorable dressed up in their pretty little dresses or whatever other outfit. Those little eyes so helpless and appealing (a verse in the song) makes you agree without question, then! The following verse which says ‘one day will flash and send you crashing through the ceiling’ you say yup, amen (husbands and boyfriends will definitely agree with this line)
But I want you–all the dads in particular to zoom in onto their teenage daughters. “Hands up all dads that have hell with their teenage daughters.” This “hell” is further complicated when you’re a step dad: you get attitude, wise cracks and sometimes back talk. I’m sure you’ll agree with me though that in the midst of these peeves there are the positives. Example: high grades, obedience (they do what you say even though they don’t want to) mannerable etc. Think about it though, these teenagers have issues too; sometimes very serious issues and we all know the men are from Mars and women are from Venus theory. Or maybe you’re now being paid for all the stuff you did as a teenager. When I was a teenager I hated my parents and did some real uncool stuff when I think back. But back to the teenagers, they really have issues; school. School today is far different from years ago; more subjects, shorter time to learn them, other class or schoolmates with problems the list goes on and on. As a man you must realize that you may not be the issue, it may just be a reaction that you happen to receive just when they are about to let it all out. We must also realize that they (the teenagers) may not know how to handle the issues too.
So what do we need to do? Support our daughters, nurture them (when they give you the chance to) love them and their mothers unconditionally and be a positive role model in their lives. After all; as another line in the song says ‘for little girls get bigger everyday! They grow up in the most delightful way! At the end of it all we want to see our daughters successful and independent, no tek up no ole streggeh (Jamaicans will understand) and we want to remember the delightful things about their growing up days.